Stiaan
is home for the weekend.
But
this is not about Stiaan. Just is just a
short discussion about me being a charity nutcase. And I guess Stiaan has all to do with it.
I
don’t actually remember supporting any charities before Stiaan came along. The only exception would be buying entries
into the St John’s Ambulance competitions where one could win a car. I always wanted to win a car.
And
then came Stiaan. And things
changed. And I started looking
differently at charities. Stiaan now
lives in a home for disabled, an institution needing millions of rands every
year in charity donations.
Since
Stiaan came along our family supported all kinds of charities in different
forms. We have done the walks, got the
T-shirts. All for various causes. Diabetes, breast cancer, save this monkey,
save that bird. Name it. We’ve been running collection efforts like
businesses, not always very successful but we always gave it our best shot. We still do.
Only difference is that we now concentrate our efforts on the home where
Stiaan lives. There is only so much
money that can go around, and we need to prioritise. Casa Caritas is the place where Stiaan will
live until the end of his life and that is why Casa Caritas is so
important to us. That institution needs
to survive so our kid can survive when we are no longer there to take care of
him.
Now,
in the case of Casa Caritas you may ask:
Why do they need charity if the parents pay fees every month? Yes, the parents pay every month. Our bill for Stiaan easily runs over R5000.00
a month. For some people this amount is
pocket change, for others it is a LOT! Then
there are the “weggooi-kindertjies” as Irma refer to, the ones she every year
at the Christmas party volunteer to buy a Christmas gift for if someone else
haven’t done so already, the ones where the parents simply dropped them at Casa
caritas and never came back. Some of these
kids were lucky and were “adopted” by biker-clubs and some of their needs
attended to by these people with hearts of gold. Yes, the same bikers whom are shouted at and
screamed at all the time by some cagers, the same bikers whom so regularly stop
at Casa Caritas to drop their donations, the same bikers whom are so easily
treated as the scum of society. But let’s
leave the bikers for now.
Discussion for another day. The
point is, the parents can’t afford to pay for everything.
I
once read a book written by a young lady whom mobilized millions of kids (and
adults) with her charity efforts, and collected millions of dollars. She still does. In the book she makes it clear: You give, you
get. But very few people will be happy
with just a “Thank you”. They want more in return for their donation.
All
good and well. Many charities can get beneficiaries
to make some craft work as a gift, or sing a song to the donors, or even host a
complete craft exhibition or concert, but how do you get 50 severely disabled
persons, of whom most are on nappies or can’t feed or dress themselves, and I
actually ran out of word here because I honestly can’t describe these
kids. Better you go out there and see
for yourselves. How do you get these 50
severely disabled persons to say “thank you”?
Easy. Besides the "Thank you”, you also give a "Because of you" to the donor!
- Because of you, I have a home
to live in.
- Because of you, I have somebody
on hand 24 hours a day to change my nappy.
- Because of you, we can employ
qualified staff at a ratio of one staff member per resident, so we can have the
best care ever.
- Because of you, we can afford
to employ managers, administrators and supports staff whom devote their time
to us.
- Because of you, we have
people sitting in on management meetings, looking at our budgets and doing
their best to make everything work.
- Because of you, we have
several donors, like you, with no ties to Casa Caritas, who will go out of
their way to help use survive.
- Because of you, we have
enough money to pay our enormous water and electricity bill every month.
- Because of you, we have at
least three meals every day, and some snacks in between!
- Because of you, I had a warm
bath this morning.
- Because of you, I slept in a
warm bed last night.
- Because of you, we have a
generator for those days when the municipal electricity is down.
- Because of you, our clothes
get washed every day, and fixed if needed.
- Because of you, we have alarm
systems and security gates to keep us safe when we sleep.
- Because of you, we have working
television sets to keep our little minds entertained.
- Because of you, we have a vehicle
so we can be taken to a doctor should we become seriously ill.
- Because of you, …
Because
of you, Stiaan, I learned to give. I
also learned that the more you give, the more you get. I also learned that you don’t necessarily get
back in the same quantities than what you gave, you always get back more. I also learned that you don’t always get back
when you give, you sometimes have to wait for the return favour. Thank you, Stiaan, for giving so much…
Greetings,
Besembek